As a teenager I’m pretty sure you heard all about how easy it is to get pregnant. Teen pregnancies here and there made it seem so effortless. The truth is getting pregnant is a bit more difficult than you ever thought, especially when you’re getting older.
If you’re under 35, it doesn’t really guarantee you’ll get pregnant as easy as a 16 year old might. Studies have shown that it takes about six (6) months for under 35 women to get pregnant and about a year before they start getting worried if it doesn’t happen.
But hey, I’m not asking you to go into panic mode within a year or two of trying to conceive. Boosting your stress levels won’t be of help anyways.
The longer you wait, the harder it gets. For older women (35 and older), the picture is entirely different. Conception can take longer in older women and in fact the chances of actually getting pregnant are few.
Dr. Michael Zinaman, director of reproductive endocrinology at Loyola University Medical Center in Chicago suggests that irregular periods in women 35 and older should be of major concern especially when trying to conceive.
Why Is It So Hard To Conceive?
One of the biggest issues is that women are often too ignorant when it comes to getting pregnant while they’re still young. Women don’t realize the dangers in leaving child-bearing for later until it’s too late.
The biological reality is that there is a higher risk of being unsuccessful with such life choices. I support the independence of career women 100% but every good thing comes with its disadvantages.
When women in their 20’s focus on building a career and totally neglect the opportunities of starting a family, it’s a lot more difficult to start one when they hit 30 and over. It’s not a medical condition; it’s just nature at work.
The same conditions apply to men as well. Sperm count drops with age in men also. A lot of men and women eventually wish they knew all this information earlier on in their lives.
How Does Pregnancy Happen?
Hypnosis, standing upside down after sexual intercourse, eating certain kinds of foods after intercourse and all other sorts of tricks you may have heard or have been advised to try do not really work. I’m sure you would reluctantly admit to trying one trick or the other in order to conceive.
A Dr. Stillman advice is that remaining supine for a few minutes (face and torso facing up while you lay flat on your back) immediately after intercourse is adequate.
Experts have suggested that there is no particular sexual position or exact time of day that will guarantee successful conception. Although it is easier said than done, it is best to be calm and just exercise patience.
The only way pregnancy happens is when the sperm fertilizes the egg. This occurs about 12 to 24 hours post ovulation. Ovulation varies among women but is usually about 14 days before the end of the monthly cycle.
Figuring out your ovulation window might be more difficult if you experience irregular periods and this includes older women getting closer to menopause.
There are a couple of myths surrounding men who are also trying to conceive with their wives. For example, the idea that briefs hinder sperm production more than boxer shorts is quite common but not proven to be true.
Bad habits like excessive smoking and drinking can affect the entire well-being of a man and this will adversely cause reduction in sperm count as well.
Some couples generally have a higher monthly fertility than others and this makes it easier for them to conceive within months of trying.
Other couples with low fertility could take a year or more. Although it may feel far from normal, but taking up to two years to conceive is perfectly normal and it doesn’t necessarily mean you have a fertility problem.
What Affects Your Ability To Conceive?
A lot of factors can affect your chances of getting pregnant and they include the following:
- Your lifestyle, age and diet
- Your partner’s age, lifestyle and diet
- Being overweight or underweight
- Rate of sexual intercourse
- Your history of illnesses and diseases
How Can You Improve Your Fertility?
Thinking about improving your fertility chances? My best advice is that you see a GP or fertility expert. The best thing to do is make sure you and your partner are in great shape for baby making.
Having unprotected sex regularly can help, especially during your ovulation window. Regularly isn’t the same as every day, because daily sex will reduce the quality of sperm.
Limiting your sex life to specific days of each cycle using complicated techniques is highly advised against.
This will only make the process more difficult and more stressful and will not increase your chances of conceiving naturally. Try simpler techniques like ovulation predictor kits or take not of signs like increased vaginal mucus discharge.
The best approach is a relaxed approach. You don’t want to get yourself all worked up and stressed out by trying everything out there. Seeing a fertility expert is still one of the most relaxed approaches you should try. Also remember to stay fit and live healthy!
Take things easy and enjoy your sex life with your partner.